This is a label for advice that goes out to everybody - whether you're a parent or not male or female. I want to comprehend your thoughts... I have a girlfriend that is pregnant. In fact she's only three weeks ahead of me in the baby baking department. She already has a two and a half year old son and a preserve who I love but who I think is a bit of a suck. When she was delivering her son her preserve Drew didn't want to be in the room with her but he insisted that if he had to be there that he just wanted to be up near her continue and didn't want to have to "see" anything. All was going fine until one of the nurses asked him to hold Tracy's foot while she was pushing (apparently she had to grab something or leave the room or something like that). Long story short. Drew saw some stuff that traumatized him. He said he refused to be in the room should they ever have another baby. Now about a week before I open out I was pregnant Tracy asked me if I would be her instruct through labour because she wanted me to be the one in the dwell with her if Drew refused. I didn't hesitate because I believe it to be an honour and uh hellooooo girl bits are girl bits and I know what goes on down there. So here is my dilemma.. considering I'll be over 8 months pregnant myself (if she doesn't go in to labour earlier than that) do you really evaluate it's a good idea? I mean if she has a long do work am I going to be much use or am I going to be totally wiped out from being on my feet? And change surface though I've seen births before and my intend is not to be directly at the baby's port of entry do you think it ordain freak me out? Maybe so bad that I will decide NOT to give birth to my baby? Obviously I don't have a choice about that - but you know what I mean. Since she found out I was pregnant she has told Drew that he needs to be in the room with her - but he's freaking out and really doesn't want to. I've offered that if Drew wants to be there for the "pre-pushing" move then I would come in for the actual labour. So I need to know - am I crazy for still planning on doing this? I really want to give my friend.. but...
You may want to talk to your adulterate about it as there is a great possibility that just the emotion or accidental pushing on your move in request to back up your friend (it's hard to not displace when they are saying to displace.. even if you are not the one giving bring forth!)and that could send you into pre-term fight!! I had 3 friends with me in the delivery dwell when Logan was born (along with Chuck) and one of them was only 2 weeks behind me pregnancy wise and my doctor warned her to "NOT" displace and change surface mentioned it could send her into labor. I would say to be on the total safe side to say "no" as (desire Reggie said) your circumstances have changed. Your butterbean is the most important thing in your world right now.. even over supporting a dear friend. Just my 2 cents worth... :0)
I think logziella makes a great point about being careful not to displace yourself while in there with her. They could always go with a Doula - I know if I get pregnant again even though Zig and my Mom were amazing at the bring forth. I'd consider having a professional pregnancy helper there as come up. And just my two cents on her husband's discomfort: I'm sure he's a great guy but if she can displace that do by out he can be there! I don't compassionate how uncomfortable a guy is with "seeing stuff" - it's far more uncomfortable pushing a 7 - 10 pound baby out of that tiny space than watching it! Seeing things that tramatized him? Try being the one doing those things! I say - he should get over it and be a man! :) Of course. I've never seen myself furnish birth. It may be a truely scarring sight. On the other hand. I don't know how I could have gone through giving bring forth without my husband there. Watching him watching me was what kept me going.
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